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M20x 1.5 or a Large Subaru drain pain bolt which is the same size but needs a washer glued to the end to get a hair more length.
You'll need something to hold the flywheel from turning. Some people use a strap wrench. That's great but I didn't have one big enough so I used a drill bit stuck backwards into one of the holes on the flywheel periphery. The block of wood is resting against the starter gear. I didn't want the drill bit directly on the starter gear shaft. Tightening the oil pan nut to pop off the flywheel barely stressed this hillbilly rigged set-up.